For my 30th birthday (yes, that’s really happening), I decided to put together a list of the most important songs of my life.
There is a difference between “most important” and “best,” although there is certainly crossover between the two categories. Instead of making a list of my 30 true favorites – and really, how hard would it have been to narrow the list down – I’ve tried to find 30 songs, strung together chronologically, that tell my life story.
The songs that follow – and are also available via a Spotify list – follow below.
Toward the beginning, I’ve picked a few favorites from my youth, making a point to include a few favorite bands and my favorite songs from them. Many of those songs found their way to a mixtape I made about 10 years ago, and I know this because I can still play the first 5 tracks before the scratches take over
The rest? Well, I think you’ll get the hang of the list.
1) “All My Ex’s Live in Texas” – George Straight
I have no memory of this, but my mom tells me that when I was about five (which makes sense, considering this song was released in 1987) I use to run around the house and sing this song when it came on the radio. I enjoyed it enough they bought it for me as a single.
2) “Lazy” – Deep Purple
This song in particular was significant for me because I learned the power of the album cut via this track. I was lamenting to dad that I couldn’t find anything on the radio after an alt-rock station from the college town near us was taken over and turned into a pop channel. He responded by pulling out some 8 tracks, including “Machinehead” by Deep Purple. That’s the album that contains “Smoke on the Water,” but Deep Purple was always much better than that song alone. This one caught my attention immediately, and it’s held it since.
3) “Dazed and Confused” – Led Zeppelin
4) “While My Guitar Gently Weeps” – The Beatles
5) “Paint it Black” – The Rolling Stones
6) “Us and Them” – Pink Floyd
I had a particular fascination with British-made classic rock. I still do, I guess. These were four of my favorite bands – still are, I guess – and my favorite tune from each. P.S. Some saw themselves as a John Lennon person. Some saw themselves as a little more Paul McCartney. Me? I always wanted to be George Harrison.
7) “Almost Cut My Hair” – Crosby, Stills & Nash
I don’t know why – other than it’s a great song – but this tune became an anthem for my friend Clint and I. We would go out on fishing trips together and listen to this song. We’d also request it on late night classic rock radio while we were sitting around drinking beer, but no one ever played it except us.
8) “Free Bird” – Lynyrd Skynyrd
Skynyrd, and this song in particular, takes a lot of bashing from hipsters. But that three-guitar attack is formidable, and I’ve been cranking this song up for years. Also, there’s the connection to my dad. He loves Skynyrd and has all of their records on vinyl. He loves them enough that he obliges, while singing along, when Ronnie Van Zant yells “turn it up” at the beginning of “Sweet Home Alabama.” I always think about dad when I hear a Skynyrd song.
9) “Behind Blue Eyes” – The Who
I was a late bloomer on The Who, which is strange because I loved a lot of other British classic rock. But this song always catches me, and I can tell you that when I saw Roger Daltrey sing it live in a solo setting a few years ago, it was a powerful, powerful moment.
10) “The Sounds of Silence” – Simon & Garfunkel
I was a little late to find Simon & Garfunkel, too, probably because they didn’t play them often on the classic rock radio station I grew up listening to. They were too soft, I guess. But I started branching out a bit from radio-format classic rock and for good measure. To this day, I can still name the artist, song and album of almost every song played on classic rock radio in less than 5 seconds, and really, it’s usually closer to 2 seconds or two notes. Don’t believe me? Ask Clint, my classic rock buddy. Or ask some of the ex-girlfriends I use to annoy with my skills. The word skills used loosely here, of course. Also, this song, I think, summarizes depression pretty well. And, if you’ve known me for a while, you know that’s something I’ve struggled with throughout the years.
11) “The Man in Black” – Johnny Cash
Johnny Cash was one of my dad’s dad’s favorite artists. I have a lot of Grandpa’s vinyl records of Johnny Cash. I think of Grandpa when I listen to Johnny Cash.
12) “Comedown” – Bush
The first album I bought with my own money? That would be “Sixteen Stone” by Bush. I heard them called the British version of Nirvana, but that was lost on me because I really didn’t know who Nirvana was at the time. I even bought a shirt that featured the album cover from “Sixteen Stone.”
13) “Long Way There” – Little River Band
The first concert I went to was a double bill of Little River Band and Bad Company, except the promoters couldn’t call them ‘Bad Company’ because of some sort of pending lawsuit with Paul Rodgers. I think they said, “And here’s the band that needs no introduction.” Paul Rodgers wasn’t the singing that day, that’s for sure. I went with my friend Dustin and his mom. Little River Band was the opening act. I remember liking them better than Bad Company. However, if I remember correctly, we had to leave Bad Company early because we had to be at school the next day.
14) “Holy Roller Novocaine” – Kings of Leon
I have the first Kings of Leon EP. Not just the first record. The first EP, released in 2003 before anybody knew who they were. “Holy Roller Novocaine” is on that EP, and it also made their first record, “Youth and Young Manhood.” I got lucky when asked to write about entertainment for my college newspaper – I didn’t know anything about pop culture. But I trashed Metallica’s “Saint Anger” album and all of the sudden I got asked to write more entertainment stories. Soon, I had a stack of albums on my desk, including this EP. I really still like it, actually. But more so than anything else, it wowed me: I had a review copy of something. It was music that practically no one had listened to yet (this was before the days of rampant song leaks). It solidified that I wanted to continue to write about music. And, almost 10 years later, I still do.
15) “Ball and Biscuit” – The White Stripes
This is another of those albums I got early. I didn’t really know some of their earlier works, like the excellent “De Stijl,” but I would learn quickly. I had a reputation as a tough critic, and if I’m not mistaken, this was the first album I ever awarded an ‘A’ grade to as a journalist. I stand by that assessment to this day. Later, I would see The White Stripes live on the tour that promoted “Elephant,” and the highlight of that set was definitely this song, which allows Jack White to do what he does best – play some awesome, dirty blues guitar.
16) “Oh, Sweet Nothin’” – The Velvet Underground
One of the other things that solidified my desire to be a journalist was the festive and fun environment we created in our collegiate newsroom. We would play vinyl records, including this one, “Velvet Underground & Nico,” and play Rock ‘Em, Sock ‘Em Robots. No newsroom has ever been so fun.
17) “Rockin’ in the Free World” – Neil Young
I could have picked one of many Neil Young songs – I love so many of them – but this one stands out for a couple reasons. It taught me a lot as a writer. In college, I was able to visit the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in Cleveland. In it was a copy of the original lyrics to this song. What I remember most about them was the scratch marks Young made on it – he’d changed his mind on the lyrics after starting it. To think that a song I can sing every word to could have been different. Then, in one of the concert highlights of my life, I got to see Buffalo Springfield perform live. As an encore, Young played this song.
18) “Always on My Mind” – Willie Nelson
I went to a concert while I was still in college to see Bob Dylan. Willie Nelson opened. I was familiar with Willie, of course, but I went to see Mr. Zimmerman. Well, if you know anything about a Dylan live show, you know he’s awful. He mumbles, he changes song structures, all of it. Meanwhile, Willie Nelson won my heart that night. He plays guitar so well, and he sings so earnestly. I’ve watched him live twice since. He made me a lifelong fan.
19) “I’m the man who loves you” – Wilco
About the time I started learning about music that wasn’t on the radio or on an album by a band who was, I started expanding into different directions. And while, technically speaking, Wilco isn’t THAT far removed from Kings of Leon, the first time I played “Yankee Hotel Foxtrot” made me ashamed of my previous failures at music explorations. It was so good, so fresh, so melodic.
20) “River” – Split Lip Rayfield
Since that fateful concert with Little River Band and (semi) Bad Company, I’ve watched in excess of 1200 live shows. I’m trying not to exaggerate. 10 years, at the rate of two shows per week… that’s 1,000. I also go to a couple festivals a year, and it’s not uncommon to see 30+ acts during a weekend at one of those. Of all those bands over the years, I’ve seen none of them with more regularity than Split Lip Rayfield. I think I’m on concert No. 16. Part of that is circumstance – they play at a couple of local festivals, and I always go to them. I see them a couple times each festival. But, part of it is how good they are. I think “River” showcases a lot of what they can do – light speed playing, harmony and tight songwriting.
21) “Transatlanticism” – Death Cab for Cutie
Death Cab is another of those bands that have followed me around throughout the years. I’ve watched them four times in four different states – Missouri, Washington D.C., Tennessee and Texas. I remember having a copy of “Transatlanticism” the album before I went to that first show, which took places in one of my favorite concert venues in the country, D.C.’s 9:30 Club. They played almost all of the album, and they charmed me from beginning to end. My love affair with them hasn’t stopped, as I just saw them this summer, some 8 years after that first show.
22) “Hysteria” – Muse
Best concert of my entire life? There are a lot of possibilities, including a show by The Roots in Arkansas, one by Rush in Kansas City, Mo., with my dad and a Radiohead festival set at Bonnaroo. I tip my hat to Muse, however, for a 2005 (or somewhere around there) show at the Uptown Theater in Kansas City. I went with my best friend Doug. We had a couple of their albums, and we’d heard they were a good live act. I turned to Doug before and said something like “Can they really be as good as their album?” About 10 minutes later, Matthew Bellamy came sliding across the stage in a suit while playing the opening guitar solo to “Hysteria” and the show began. After they thundered through that song, Doug turned back to me and said “What do you think now?” We both knew the answer, of course. To this day, Doug swears this show caused him permanent hearing damage.
23) “Run Thru) – My Morning Jacket
My Morning Jacket is another of those bands that taught me music doesn’t have to be on the radio to be good. I remember having a copy of “It Still Moves” and thinking I needed everybody in the world to have a copy of that record. It’s a rare mixtape I make that doesn’t include one of their tracks. This song, in particular, reminds me of my first music festival – Bonnaroo 2006 – and the first time I was able to see them live. Their set started at midnight, and they played until 3:30 a.m. I had danced from about 10 a.m. to 2 a.m., and I actually had to lay down in the grass, too exhausted to move. My festival buddy, Dan, had already retired to the tent for much the same reason. Then, toward the end of their set – I think it was their last song, actually – they fired up a 10-plus minute version of this monster. It starts slow, but I knew where it goes from there, so I roused myself up in time for the bass solo mania that comes in about halfway through the track. I danced a little bit more. Much for that memory, I’ve included a live cut of the track on my mixtape.
24) “I Summon You” – Spoon
I was a late adopter to Spoon, too. If I’m not mistaken, it may have been on the trip to Bonnaroo that Dan, my music guru, made me listen to “Gimme Fiction.” The band has been somewhat hit-or-miss since then, but this song is just about perfect. It starts with the following phrase: “Remember the weight of the world is the sound that we use to buy/On cassette and 45s” and then dives into a request for an unknown, perhaps nonexistent lover. My heart, on the days that I decide I have one, knows exactly what they mean.
25) “Reckoner” – Radiohead
Of course this list would have Radiohead on it, right? There were so many to choose from: “Lucky,” “Nice Dream,” “Paranoid Android,” etc. But I fell hard for Radiohead right before “In Rainbows” came out. Really hard. I had just watched them perform at Bonnaroo, including a preview of a couple tracks, but this song from the album version just cut right through me. It also reminds me of an ex-girlfriend I was quite fond of at the time. We watched the movie “Choke” together, and this song is in the soundtrack.
26) “November Blue” – The Avett Brothers
If you doubt the power the Avett Brothers have over me, know this: I don’t cry often, but hearing this song performed live at a festival made me weep openly and in public. When I finally looked up (I was ashamed at my tears) I noticed some other misty eyes in the crowd. The combination of haunting harmony and lost love was too much for me, and apparently, a few others. They’ve made some corny songs in their recent history (hello, “Kick Drum Heart”) but about once an album, they hit an emotional spot so true it’s hard to keep your breath.
27) “The Wanting Comes in Waves/Repaid” – The Decemberists
I think the only time a girl has ever asked me out, ever, was a night when someone drove me to Tulsa and took me to a concert by The Decemberists. We sang and danced and held each other close. The band was in the middle of its “The Hazards of Love” tour, which saw them play the album from start to finish. It almost feels unfair to pull a song out of that context, but isn’t that what this whole mixtape is doing? Anyway, this song is poignant, and a fond memory of a fond time in my life.
28) “The Sun is Shining Down” – JJ Grey and Mofro
Another gem gleaned from the festivals I’ve gone to, JJ Grey and Mofro capture electricity. Between their swamp funk, guitar solos, horn sections and enthusiasm, it’s hard not to enjoy them. This one, in particular, I play when I need a pick-me-up. It borders on gospel, but it never comes in danger of being overwrought. Just a beautiful tune.
29) “Heart it Races” – Dr. Dog
Of all the shows I’ve seen on repeat in Fayetteville (we seem to be stuck on about a nine-month loop here), one of the most consistently entertaining is Dr. Dog. This particular song, “Heart it Races,” isn’t even theirs – it’s a cover of an Architecture in Helsinki song. But they do it better, I think, with their psychedelic folk take. Likewise, this song reminds me of a girl. We use to sit around the house, cook for each other and listen to Dr. Dog. The last time I went to see Dr. Dog, we were together, and we spent the night dancing and singing. The last time they were in town, I decided I couldn’t see them again for fear of the memories.
30) “Runaway” – The National
When I heard The National for the first time, it was like I was run over by a somber, mildly depressing truck. These guys spoke my language. Since my introduction to them via the album “The Boxer,” I’ve bought each of their albums on the day they arrived commercially and watched them live in concert. This track, in particular, says so much. Sometimes, we’ve just got to throw our hands in the air and go for things, regardless of consequences.
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